Once upon a time, when we needed help, we rushed down the street or across the highway to find it. We went to grandpa or grandma. Back then, we just suspected that our grandparents had life experience: therefore, they could provide us with all the help we needed. Nothing bad with that. Age enforces experience in us whether we are conscious of the matter or not. But what is also true and fair to say is that we gain experience in whichever circumstances life takes us. If life does not take us through a specific route, chances are we are not going to develop any experience in that area. [Read more…] about Breaking loose from the old way of finding help
How much would you pay someone who offered to sit tight, their elbows fixed on the table with their hands on their mouth, and tilted forward toward you listening to you for as long as it takes until you had nothing more to add whether your speech were stressful, accusatory, or praiseful? Or what was the last time you listened to someone from start to end without interrupting? Those that listen possess the most powerful spiritual strength only known to able leaders. You will not understand if you do not listen. You will not be productive if you don’t leave your seat to step in another person’s shoes, which is empathy. Let’s consider these terms more in-depth, one at a time. [Read more…] about Listening with Understanding and Empathy
In August of 2017, the City of Houston in Texas experienced one of its most somber moments in recent history. It was violently hit by Hurricane Harvey. The damages were estimated at $150 billion. Most people are yet to recover. It will take years for some to get back to where they were before the hurricane. And some will never recover. [Read more…] about Managing Impulsivity
If the mother does not persist when the baby refuses to use her bottle, that child will never learn how to get food from anything else except the mother’s milk. If the mother does not persist with the baby when it only wants to lay down, that child will never learn the skills of sitting, standing, or crawling. If the mother is not persistent with the baby to give it the medicine when that baby is refusing it, that baby will never recover from fever. [Read more…] about Habit of Mind #1: Persisting
The mind is an invisible part of the human body. You find it in the head or the brain. But only very few individuals pay attention to the mind. To prove this assertion, consider this question: how many times did you think of your mind today? If you are among the unusual individuals that do think of their mind daily, then you probably did. If not, you have just used your mind and are using it right now, but you do not pay any special attention to it. The news is, could be good news or bad news to you, the news is, you are not alone. [Read more…] about The habits of mind – Intro
Let no one tell you that there are bad years and good years. Anything can happen any year. Now what makes a difference in a year and a life is the ability or inability to set goals and follow them. In 2018, I challenge you to set goals. [Read more…] about A Year Can Make You Or Break You: What To Do
When I was learning how to drive, I came to an intersection one day. There was a woman driving a white SUV to the opposite side of the road. She was going to the opposite direction. Cozy in my car, I looked at her passing by, [Read more…] about Look, that’s where we are going!
Dreams are free. Everybody can dream. But it will cost you time, thinking, collaboration, and sometimes money to turn your dream into success. [Read more…] about It is Allowed to Dream
When you hear a story such as, “Bill Gates dropped out of college to concentrate on his business idea,” your natural instinct is to praise that brilliant Harvard dropout. You want to say that he did the right thing; we hardly know his most brilliant teacher at Harvard, let alone his classmates who stayed in school. In case you didn’t know, the reason we so easily praise Bill Gates is that he succeeded. [Read more…] about The art of risk-taking
Hello, and welcome! My name is Vitalis Essala.
I have met a few honest people who choose not to have management positions. They may have the skills it takes to run their division successfully, but they don’t have the patience it takes. And that is ok.
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